Do you make decisions from your head, your heart, or a mixture of both? We are led to believe that we are either ‘left-brained’ or ‘right-brained’. So, if you are analytical, logical and methodical you are said to be ‘left-brained’. And if you are more creative or artistic you are said to be ‘right-brained’.
But the idea that there are right-brained and left-brained people is a myth. Recent research using brain imaging technology hasn’t found any evidence of right or left dominance. We all have different personalities, skills and talents, but there’s no reason to believe these differences can be explained by the dominance of one half of the brain over the other. It is true that the right and left sides of the brain specialise in different kinds of tasks, but it is more complicated than creativity on the right and logic on the left. In fact, subjects like maths and science also require creativity, inspiration and intuition.
So, it is balance that we want, the ability to use all of our capability rather than just some of it. Being continually told that you are one thing or another limits the possibilities available to you.
When making a decision you may feel like you need to use your head not your heart, your intellect not your intuition. But you could always do both, maybe making a pro/con list using your heart and then filter it through your intellect.
Be true to your heart
It is important to think about what really interests you, what creates passion, what you love to do rather than what you think you should do.
We often have friends and family who think they’re being helpful by trying to dissuade us from things that we want to do. So sometimes it’s better to be careful about who you share your plans and desires with. It’s important to have people around you who are going to support you without judgment and allow you to explore your dreams and passions. Just because other people don’t think it’s a good idea, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try it and find out whether it is what you really want to do.
I think, especially as we get older, we start to think about the things we haven’t done, the things we haven’t said, the places we haven’t been. In that situation, often the only decision that you can make is the decision that comes from your heart.
Connect to your heart and connect to what it is you really feel. Is this something that you really want to do? Is this something that brings you joy? Does it make your heart sing? But it may be something that will give you security, which is important, and that might be an intellectual choice.
If your intuition or your heart is telling you, no, maybe you need to listen to that too. It’s by trusting yourself that you will get the most out of your life.
Peel away the layers
Sometimes the first thoughts or feelings we have about something are a distraction. They may be the cover story, but if we allow those to move aside, there may be something else underneath that becomes clear. Maybe we’ve hidden something, it’s still there, but just buried beneath some of the other things. And in this process of not lingering with your thoughts, but by allowing them to move through, sometimes you can get down to those deeper layers. Sitting quietly or in meditation can help you access these thoughts.
And when we are working with our heart energy, making decisions and choices from our heart, it’s important that we are grounded and centred. Breathing more slowly and deeply during contemplation will help with this.
So, in being grounded and being centred and then connecting to our heart, that gives us a stable place from which to make decisions.
If you would like help with practicing stillness, contemplation, meditation or mindfulness take a look at Halcyon Daily Meditations or send me a message.