Many women these days seem to be in a state of complete overwhelm. Very often they say something like, ‘I would really love to do that, but I just can’t fit anything else into my schedule’. Somehow we have managed to fill our lives so fully with work, caring for children/parents/animals, housework, shopping, voluntary work, workshops/seminars/courses that we have no time or space to sit and just think or dream.
As I child I remember spending a lot of time looking out of the window or just sitting on a beach or by a pond. I was never bored, I was just being. I recognise that a lot of that time was spent in what I would now call meditation, but my parents weren’t worried at all that I wasn’t busy. As well as filling every waking minute of our lives we also fill that of our children, which mostly means that we have to take them here and there to fill all their school, sport or hobby commitments. By overstimulating our children they are unable to just sit and do nothing, they are bored very easily and have no idea how to entertain themselves. Do they have time to dream?
We seem to be terrified that if we are not seen to be busy, others will judge us as unproductive or lazy. I well remember the office competitions as to who got to work the earliest or left the latest!
One of my favourite quotes is:
Stillness is where creativity and solutions to problems are found ~ Eckhart Tolle
But my question is, how can you find time to plan, to dream your dreams, to see where you are going in all this ‘busyness’? There is a saying that goes something like, ‘A plan without action is just a dream, but action without a plan is a nightmare’. Many of us ramp up our stress levels by taking action without a plan. You owe it to your family to take care of your health so you can be there for them in the future. Women see spending time or money on themselves as being selfish, but self- care is essential not a luxury. You need time to reflect on what you are doing, where you are going and how it can be made less stressful. You need to take back control of your life so you can have the lifestyle you really want.
If you would love to have some space and time just for yourself, especially if you find yourself facing change or transformation in your life, take a look at my Facebook group Serenity Circle or get on the waitlist for the Halcyon community